Recently I was asked by the lovely Ruth, blogger of Urbanity, to do a photo shoot and interview for her current Fashion Communications project; a 1950s inspired magazine. After going to the wrong location (my head was all over the place from a rotten cold that fuzzed me up good and proper!), her lovely photographer partner managed to capture me on great form in this amazing Collectif catsuit, which has got to be my new favourite modern piece. The body part of it was hella too big for my little 5 ft frame, so I actually took it to Emily’s – the best tailor in town – to get it altered to fit, but I’m going to tell you all about her in another post!
Ruth has been working with some of my favourite places in Edinburgh for this project and I’m totally psyched to be a face among these vintage and modern local hero’s of mine. The greatest part? They’re all young, independent women, who are strong, smart, friendly, and most importantly a massive inspiration. Check out her blog posts on Carnival Vintage, one of my favourite haunts in town with a great curation of all things 40’s to 70’s, and Ladyboss Collective, the most incredible shop and nail bar that’s filled with art, fashion, jewellery that’s solely made by women, many of which are locals. Between the two you can kiss your last pay check goodbye; you’d be hard pushed to find something you didn’t want to bring home!
I adore that there is such a great boom in women setting up their own businesses and embracing what they do best on the biggest scale possible, and I’m massively proud to be a part of it. But, it’s incredible to think that even in this day and age, sadly there is often a lack of support for these types of amazing ladies. Most upsettingly, it comes from a surprising source – other women.
Of course, the bottom line for the girl on girl catcalling is simply jealousy, but that doesn’t make it ok. We all get jealous at times, but trashing each other never changes anything – it just makes the protagonist look idiotic and it certainly makes other people double check their opinions of them. If you feel yourself getting uncontrollably green eyed, use that energy and put it towards a positive outcome – the bottom line is the drive to do better, is it not? If another girl can make you feel that strongly, you gotta respect that level of influence, dig deep inside yourself to get to the bottom of your issues and focus on solving it. I’m a strong believer that the negative words people are putting out there are actually projections on what they think about themselves. We can all think of a few things a mean girl has said to us / about us in the past, but did you (or the girls you weep to afterwards) ever actually agree and think they had a valid point? Not exactly. Those cuts can dig deep though, and they are usually totally unwarranted. It takes a woman in a dark place to throw shade like that, and if it’s aimed at your head, please remember that the comments have absolutely nothing to do with you and you should take it in your stride. In the most backward way possible, it’s actually a compliment. She’s spending all her time thinking about you, and you’re just living your life doing what you do best. Had she spent that energy on herself, we’d all be in a better place… in fact, we would probably be running the world by now.
In a nutshell, don’t let anyone’s opinion get in your way no matter how cruel they may be; understand it means you’re doing something right. And for the love of god, keep doing it. Work on yourself as much as possible to be the best version of you. Remember, nothing worth doing comes easily.
Support every female you know, help strengthen their business by spreading good words about them, drag your butt out of bed to do a photo shoot and be appreciative when they’re not irritated when you’re an hour late and not quite yourself. Every little act of kindness towards one another has a huge impact. With the current state of politics, the last thing we need to do is punish our world wide girl gang.
Love Trumps Hate.
Visit Urbinty blog for more killer content and see more pictures from our shoot. Visit Carnival Vintage to buy vintage online and keep up to date with Ladyboss Collective and their amazing lady network in Edinburgh.